It sucks when you wish to be alone when in a crowd, and you wish to be with someone when alone? How weird can teenagers be. Super weird. Super super weird. Which is exactly two more super's than the usual.
"Forgive & forget", one of the most common quotes used by today's teenagers to get over heartbreaks. But no wonder how untrue and wrong it is. Probably for a few people, forgiving but never forgetting is the maximum they can afford to do. And probably for the other half, forgetting is what they do because the pain is too much and they fail to be so forgiving and good. You're lucky if you get to be a good person during your high school years. On one hand people tell you to learn from your experiences and to never repeat that stupid mistake of yours, but on the other hand, people ask you to let go of your past and learn to hope and have faith again. How uncanny is that!
Suppose you just went through a terrible heartbreak, and with time you do manage to smile, but then the other day you meet this amazing person, and you like him/her, and he/she likes you back, but you guys just can't date. There's something within you that doesn't let you take a chance, again. Is it the fear of getting your heart broken again? Or is it that you've learnt from your past experience of being a bit more careful?
What are you supposed to do? I wish I knew too.
We cry. We smile. We love. We laugh. We're heart broken. We're demented. We're moody. We're PMS'ing 12 months a year (not in case of guys, hopefully).
Every time I wonder that how much just a single hug can make a person feel good, supported and so fine. Hugging therapy is a really powerful way of healing. Well, let's not think the way our 'orthodox' society thinks. Our society and people might think too wrong about it. You see a girl hugging another guy, and immediately we detect the non-existent love going on between them. We, human beings, are so so so amazing! Which is exactly two more so's than the usual.
Even if you see an enemy of yours upset, broken, on the verge of giving up (worst case scenario) just, hug her/him. It might just make her/him smile. You might just end up making somebody out there happy. Because at times its just about the actions and not the words. Its just about that assurance of being there rather than a hundred broken aimless promises and statements and commitments and words. Its actually not about the physical contact, its about the built trust and that sense of safety, healing that feeling of isolation and anger and hurt. Moreover, you end up learning how to give, and how to receive.
"Hugging is one of the most complex and many sided ways of communication. Through hugs we can spread our spoken language to the language of wider expression. In different hugs we may speak of security, confidence, trust and sharing in a manner that no word can tell. In these ways hugging someone may also do good for one's self -esteem. So much better than verbal crap, isn't it?"
The Hug Therapy Book (one of my favorites of all times) by Kathleen Keating : http://www.amazon.com/The-Therapy-Book-Kathleen-Keating/dp/1568380941
A must read! :)
